You have much more control over what you define as wants and needs than you think.
Some people have a lot of trouble spending money.
I’m talking about the people who see spending as a “bad thing”, who feel shame when they have to part with their money.
For these people (and raise your hand if this sounds like you), money becomes a morality issue, and a very binary one: “spending is bad, not spending is good.” And this bleeds over into the self, in the way that we so often feel like we are what we do: “If I spend a lot of money, I am a bad person, and if I spend a little, I am a good person.“
That struggle is real. Imagine if every time you were confronted with a purchase, it was tied how good of person you were? (Many of you don’t have to imagine this.)
Unpacking this isn’t something one can do in a single blog post (or even a bunch of them); it’s something that’s done over time with a coach that specializes in the emotional side of finance.
But, I can offer you something to contemplate, which can have the effect of short-circuiting this train of thought, and lead to you to potentially relate to your purchases in a more less-judgmental way.
It refers to how we look at our “needs” versus “wants.”[Read more…] about How to break the belief that it’s only okay to spend on your needs