How not sharing all finances can reduce conflict in your relationships

Sharing all finances with a partner is a viable strategy, but it comes with the risk of conflict, such that it might not be worth it. I once heard a story about a married couple. They had an “All-In” agreement … Read MoreRead More

How to reduce money conflicts on vacation

Vacation can be stressful, especially when not everyone has the same impulses when it comes to spending. But you can reduce money conflicts. Traveling can be stressful in lots of ways. In normal times, there’s the stress of getting from … Read MoreRead More

Why you should connect with your partners around money

Many in relationships avoid talking about money with their partners, but this can cause unnecessary conflict and prevent greater connection. The statistics are clear: Money is the biggest source of stress for those in the U.S.A. And money is the … Read MoreRead More

What if your partner isn’t on board with making financial changes?

You may be excited to work on your financial wellness, but your partner might be resistant. Here’s how to reduce conflict and get more aligned. Financial wellness is a journey, and usually a bumpy one. Often, the journey has a … Read MoreRead More

Should you let your partner handle your money for you?

When you share finances with a partner, you can outsource the budgeting to the one who is most interested, but there are good reasons not to. After doing this for many years, I’ve learned a surprising fact: not everyone is … Read MoreRead More

The Semi-Joint Life: How partners can (partially) combine their finances

When partners wish to share finances without going all-in, there is more than one way to set up both individual and joint accounts to maximize everyone’s feelings of autonomy and connection. I believe that there are four main ways that … Read MoreRead More

Do you need to live with who you love?

  I live in a rather small place, at least by American standards. But it’s a lovely place, and I am pleased that I managed to be able to purchase it. One thing feels clear to me though: I don’t … Read MoreRead More

Are you on the relationship escalator?

  A few years ago, I was in the early staging of dating someone. At one point, she wrote to me, in detail, the precise ages at which she wanted to move in, get married, and have kids. And while … Read MoreRead More

Is it possible to be with more than one … airline?

  I never realized that when we met, it would last so long. I remember it well. It was 2001, and I was on my way to Burning Man. I was terribly late in getting to the airport, too late, … Read MoreRead More

What is the difference between a friend and a love?

  The standard social model is as follows: You have a large number of acquaintances, followed by a smaller number of close friends, and then at the top: the single solitary love. Putting aside the acquaintances for now, it’s the … Read MoreRead More